People, nowadays, are so stuck up in their frenzied, hysterical routine that it is almost impossible to stop one second and think: “Why am I living this life? Was this what I wanted? Am I pursuing my ideals?”.
These questions are though, most of the time they remain un-answered, but the last one… the last one is maybe the hardest one and it is also the driving question. Answering it can probably change the life, it can make us leave our routine and start living the life we always dreamt.
This may seem something for millennials and Gen-Z-ers, but it actually isn’t. People who followed ideals have always existed, and we all used to look up to them: leaders, commanders, messiahs, entrepreneurs but also common persons. Ideals are not a property of sensitive people or a generation, they cross generations and ages.
Principles and beliefs don’t need to reflect any common accepted morality, ideals and dreams can be detached from sense of good and usefulness for the community. Lev Tolstoi used to say: “It is not possible to live without an ideal, even the vilest, vanity, greed, but that it is placed as an ideal”.
Following an ideal is not so easy, life hits hard, or can smoothly lead us to forget our principles and living the routine, which is much easier. Humans are lazy in general, the question is: is this really living? Or is it simply surviving?
Once we start to realize what we want to be and take steps towards that direction, no matter what the difficulties are, we will be living in those moments, and even if struggling with the world, we will be truly living. Hard times will pass and once they do, we discover that it was better to have felt those emotions than the routine.
Struggling and following principles is what we call INTEGRITY, and we should always prefer living for those principles. Ask yourself: do I prefer having relationships with people of ideals and principles or someone who has nothing to fight for? Usually, the former communicate openly and honestly, they lead by example, and stay calm and positive.
Billionaire Warren Buffet, considered by many insiders the best and most famous investor in recent times (he is also Bill Gates’s best friend), said: “We look for three things when we hire people. We look for intelligence, we look for initiative or energy, and we look for integrity. And if they don’t have the latter, the first two will kill you, because if you’re going to get someone without integrity, you want them lazy and dumb.”
In an age where human values are slowly being erased by the ideas of prevarication, competition and struggle for survival, integer people are trustworthy, and when you choose who you want on your side (as partners, friends, best friends, colleagues and so on), always ask yourself what you really want from them. Do you want someone who talks openly? Do you want someone who practices what he preaches? Do you want someone who is accountable? And in the meantime, try to be an integer person yourself.